So maybe some of your are curious as to how the Tattle Tellin Reverse post turned out?
Not. So. Good.
There was a comment from someone, can't remember who right now, that said she had done this as well and found herself having to give her children examples of nice things to say....and when I read that I thought.....surely not my girls, they will have nice things to say!
They had nothing nice to say about each other.
In fact, at one point it took HopeAnn over FIFTEEN minutes to come up with FIVE nice things to say about the Taylor. And it included the obvious like, "Um....She has blond hair and blue eyes."
Apparently she believes that pointing out the, obvious will reconcile the rest? Don't think so little my little flower child.
So a couple of weeks ago I had ordered this book and for sweet perfection of timing it came on Friday afternoon:
1. Why the hair style? (Important, pressing issues first.)
2. How could you possibly spend quality time with each child?
3. Why do you keep having babies???!!! MERCY.
4. How do you manage to run a smooth running household every day?
5. And most importantly how do you discipline ALL those children?!!!
So, because it's a pretty easy read, I got through it in just a few hours here and there this past weekend. And there are some very insightful things I feel I must share with every other burned out momma out there.
First, yes, I totally felt inadequate as a mom after reading this.
It "appears" that the Duggar household is run in a smooth orderly fashion, where the children obey promptly, voices are never raised, cleanliness and organization are a successful standard upheld by all and little sassy blond haired children never talk-back! Meals are thoughtfully planned out, budgets are stayed within, charts and systems of rewards are used and all of the children are home schooled.
Are you feeling inadequate yet?
Oh but wait, there's more......
The kids don't watch TV, they all have chores each day, they have buddy systems and...
The Duggar family is totally debt-free!
But as I read more, I have to give them many props for what they do. (Like they read this blog, hee hee) I personally have no desire to have 18 kids, I can barely remember the names, birthdays, schedules and likes/dislikes of my three. But, I don't knock them for successfully doing what they feel the Lord has called them to do....to keep having babies.
There were a few things that I wanted to share with you, and myself to help us through these seemingly never-ending days of drama.
1. Do you know that their kids wear their pj's for three days before they wash them? Ok, I'm SO implementing this one. I think that is part of my laundry problem, all those pj's!
2. For chores, they use Teri Maxwell's Managers of Their Chores systems. And their children all begin chores at the age of um...three. So therefore that means I'm about FIVE YEARS behind with Taylor. And I'm fully aware that we need to do something, stat about this! I hope to use a few of the ideas with this system.
3. As a rewards system they give each child a penny for each completed task each day. This includes making their beds, putting pj's away,, using manners etc... I personally think this is a fabulous idea so I wouldn't have to keep saying, "Did you make your bed?.... Brush your teeth?...Where are your manners?"...and a penny isn't a ton of money, but I know my girls will value it!
4. They also use something called "blanket time" which seems to be good for younger kids but I think my girls are a little to old to start implementing this now. You can google it if you want more info. Michelle Duggar describes it as, "Having a play pen in your purse." Sounds awesome!
Fellow mommies, here's the thing. What works for one, may not work for all! We do need to make efforts to have peaceful, happy homes. But, it is helpful to share ideas, tips and what works and doesn't work for you. So, I fully open up the comments today to share your favorite mommy tips! And, if you read this and don't have children yet, what were some of the creative things your parents did when you were a kid?
How do you do chores in your home? Do you have a rewards system? What is your biggest challenge? How do you handle discipline, particularly in older kids (that's where it seems to get tough, I'd rather put a little hiney in time-out all day rather than deal with the rolling of the eyes and sassy tones!). Let me hear from you!
Ok off to the water park for some fun in the sun and a week of VBS! Whoo hoo. ;) Have a great day and I can't wait to hear your thoughts today!