Monday, August 25, 2008

Teetering between the "hers".

Please forgive me for not wanting to "talk" about all of the issues we are facing today. I have not been blessed with a "natural" long-term heart that can deal with hard stuff for a long time. Give me a day or two of sick kids and stressful lives, I'm fine.

Give me a week or more of it??? (deep sighs) Not so "fine".

Hope is doing better, but we are still up and down. And it's been a downer morning already.

But, Today I want to talk about two women. Because I truly have found myself teetering between these two women this weekend. This was a big hit lesson during bible study and I need to refresh myself today of this whole concept.

*Please note these are all concepts from the Do You Think I'm Beautiful Bible Study by Angela Thomas.

Woman number one, we will call her the "Weak Willed Woman"

Her characteristics include these*:

*Consumed with Fears
*Self-Absorbed
*Caring too much about appearances and what everyone
*An invisible, frightened church mouse
*Loud, Brash, and dominant
*empty of ambition or passion
*Controlling
*deaf to the voice of God, never hearing Him call her beautiful
*full of self-pity
*defeated by depression
*harboring a grudge
*prone to gossip
*indulging in her obsessions
*easily hurt or offended
*attending bible studies but never changing or growing
*given to a critical spirit

Enter woman number 2: The Dangerous Woman For God
Now for her Characteristics:

*Desperate for God
*Ready to Jump in and do whatever it takes for Him
*A heart that longs for righteousness
*A life that represents obedience
*Has the power of trust
*Knows that she belongs to God
*Finds comfort in "being still"
*Is willing to fight out each battle in her life
*Dances in the Arms of God
*Knows that He calls her beautiful and believes it

So, here's the deal. No, I cannot fully identify with every single characteristic of the weak-willed woman nor every single characteristic of the dangerous woman for God. But there are a few things on that list that I tend to identify with more than others.

Here's the thing.....it only takes "one". One trait to knock us down for an insane amount of time. Or one trait to build us up for a life-time.

I find myself drawing a line down the middle of my body all day. Jumping back and forth from one "her" to the next "her". Sometimes it can come in the form of "MINUTES". One minute I'm this "her" the next the other "her".

Frustrating to say the least.

In my lesson that I taught on this I came up with a plan based on the study. Because I'm always a girl in need of a plan. I like to know A, B and C which will then lead to "results". Right?? =)

Ok,

Step 1. Being in God's word. Every. Single. Day.

This doesn't mean being in a bible study book or devotional book, this is you and I, personally, opening up God's word and letting HIS words speak to my heart. Just like God has given so many other's out there a "message", He too has a message just for you and I.

Step 2. Turning Your questions into Trusts.

Isaiah 41:13 says, "For I am the Lord, your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you."

For me, these are simple trusts. Like, "Lord I don't know why I'm being pushed to the limits this way, but I trust you are in control."

or

"Lord, I don't know what the future holds for this week, but I trust that you have it all in your hands."

Every fear we have can be turned into a trust. This may be something that doesn't come natural at first, it's still a struggle for me. But strength is found in trust.

Step 3. Know that an ending is all to often just the beginning.

All to often when something is removed suddenly from our lives, there is a reason. And it's a greater reason than we can every know!!

Psalm 25:5 "Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are my God my Savior and my hope is in you all day long."

Step 4. Take your eyes off yourself and put it on others.

I was very easily able to do this while we were in the hospital. Just when you think your life is a complete mess and can't be any worse, if you open up your eyes you will see all around you there are many others hurting and that need a word of encouragement or love. Just because you are in the "thick" of being the weak-willed woman, DOESN'T mean that God can't or won't use you. Open up your eyes to see what's happening in other's lives. It's not all about you.

Step 5. Seek the help of qualified people if weakness overcomes your life.

If you find yourself more on the side of the weak-willed woman more than most of your time, It might be time to seek out some help. I at one point did need this. Depression overcame me and I sought help from a lady at our church. Again, this isn't a friend or a relative, this is someone on the outside looking in that will be able to say, "This is step one. This is step two."


Wow, I feel better just writing this all out. You know, sometimes "life" just overwhelms us. It's not God saying ok today you get this and this and this.......it's just LIFE.

Is God in control of it all? Yes.

Does He know every little detail before we ever see it? Yes.

But He's not a mean and grueling God who's sitting on His throne casting "life" on us. LIFE JUST HAPPENS.

Well, if anyone reads this and gets anything from it, praise the Lord. But if anything I just needed to be reminded of this!

12 comments:

Chatty Kelly said...

Ouch. I did see myself in #1, as well as in #2. Thank you for this eye opening experience.

Wow.

Sarah Martin said...

nicki,
thanks for checking in with me. i am doing great. i have been keeping up with your blog and feverishly praying for your girls. going back to work next week...bummer! thanks for being such a great blogging buddy!

love sarah

Joyful said...

Nicki, again your attitude blesses my heart. I love how you remind yourself of God's Word and ask Him to bring every thought captive.

I just finished doing Angela Thomas's study, "When Wallflower's Dance". It was wonderful too.

May the Lord continue to bless you for your selfless ministry to others.
Hugs and continued prayers,
Joy

Hollie Ann said...

This is great! I'm forwarding this to some friends that really need to hear it, if you don't mind?

Thanks for sharing!

Pinkshoelady said...

Thank You so much for this! I needed it today. Today I am so much more like "Weak willed woman!"

Trust has always been hard for me! And I HATE BEING WEAK!!!!!!

So your statement about the "power in trust" hit me right in the heart.

I am going to meditate on that for the rest of the day! It just may end up on my blog sometime, because that statement has shaken me to my core!

Thank you!
Pamela R.

"B" His Girl said...

Wow...that flowed over all of us. We need to walk upright. Thanks.

Kathryn said...

A big "Amen!", Nicki, from my little corner of the world!

Monday blessings ...

On Purpose said...

Wow those two lists are very powerful and heart pulling today for me!

Thank you for ALWAYS blogging from your heart...you are allowing God to touch women in some very powerful ways!

Love you!

I am praying with you as you "live" through your week!

Sharon Brumfield said...

Hmmm, maybe I could write a book on the two faces of Sharon.
I pray that as the years have passed that I have become less of one and more of two.
I know I have a long way to go. Sometimes the hard times make me feel like I am all # 1 but I know that is a lie from my enemy.

Don't weary in well doing...for in due time you will reap the reward.
He loves you girl...and He sees your beautiful face.

ValleyGirl said...

I remember reading or hearding someone say once that they're favourite passage in the Bible was, "IT CAME TO PASS." Obviously a King James Version adherent, but I love to repeat that phrase to myself when I'm going through a rough patch. It came to pass. Not to stay. Thank God for His mercy!! You are in my prayers.

Jamie @ Purposeful Pursuit said...

Excellent post! It really hit home for me. Thanks so much for sharing.
I'm still praying...for you and your girl.

Room for Grace said...

Thanks for taking the time to write this. I really needed to hear this today!
Dena